With Mabel’s 1st birthday coming up so soon, there certainly are a lot of things that I have to say and share about her. And don’t worry- I most certainly will! But, I would be totally remiss if I didn’t take some time to talk about another super special girl who is coming up on the one year anniversary of the biggest change in her life to date.
Becoming a big sister.
That Abigail. From the time we told her that a baby was on the way, she just knew in her heart of hearts that it was going to be a sister. There was no convincing her of the alternative. When everyone else around her thought it might be a brother, she held strong. She knew her little sister was in there.
And on that day in December when the ultrasound tech said, “It’s a girl!” and Jim and I exclaimed in surprise, “Oh Abigail! You WERE right!” she simply said, “yeah, I know!” There was no surprise for her.
And from that point on, we simply tried to prepare and talk about the change that was coming. Though, there is really no way you can do that.
If you were to ask her then what thing she was most looking forward to, she would say, “the poopy diapers!!”
When Mabel was born that sweet heart of hers wanted to throw her a birthday party. Grammy and her put together a cake with a 0 candle, bought balloons, gifts, cards, and decor. They sang her “Happy Birthday” and to this day Abigail still talks about that celebration.
From the very start she was the very best big sister to her little sister.
Oh, we had adjustment issues. To be sure. It was a hard, hard summer for us with our sweet Abigail.
But, it was never, ever, EVER directed towards little sister. Not once. Not still. The adjustment came from the changes in attention and with Mommy and Daddy, but never was there ever resentment or diminished affection towards Mabel. From the start, there has been nothing but absolute love and adoration towards Mabel- and getting to watch that love grow and be returned has been one of the most wonderful things I have ever been privileged to witness.
This girl helps with the diapers and the burping and the playing.
She is the first to race in to greet her in the morning and after every nap.
She (mostly) shares her toys and reads her books, pushes her swings, strollers, and carts. She rinses her pacifiers and shares her food.
Fun story: I never even thought to give Mabel a sippy cup of water. The thought never crossed my mind. But it crossed Abigail’s. So she put together a sippy of water for Mabel and she guzzled it down right away. It was amazing!
She cheers her on with every new milestone. From tummy time, to rolling, to crawling, Mabel’s biggest cheerleader has always been her big sister.
Hugs, kisses, pats, and snuggles are never in short supply around here.
And if you asked her today what her favorite thing about being a big sister is? She would still tell you “the poopy diapers!” and we would all laugh, because that is so Abigail.
But if you asked me what my favorite thing has been about watching her be a big sister is, I would tell you that it has been watching her learn to love and share with someone other than herself. To give without getting anything in return(yet!) To help someone who can’t help you. And, as time continues to go by, the absolute adoration Abigail has bestowed on Mabel is being returned ten fold. The awe and wonder that little sister looks up to big with, is breath taking.
After a long, long, long time of waiting and hoping for this, I can tell you with 100% certainty, that it was all worth it. Every tear, every month, every test, every supplement, every diet, every tincture….they all made this sisterhood possible. And I couldn’t be more thankful.