Be Careful Little Mouth What You Say

O be careful little mouth what you say

O be careful little mouth what you say

There’s a Father up above and He’s looking down in love

So, be careful little mouth what you say

I’ve been pondering an interesting topic lately and feel like just diving right on into it today.

How we speak to our husbands.

*cringe*

Already? I know I did just thinking about it.

We all do it. I know I do!

Example:

Me, talking on the phone to my bff/Mom/basically anybody: blah blah blah talk talk talk ha ha ha

Husband calls: “Hey baby! How’s your day going?!”

Me: “fine.”

Him: “Great! Listen….*explains some lengthy story that I may or may not actually listen to*”

Me: *crickets* and/or *sigh* and/or “ok?”

Him: “Alright! Love you!”

Me: *click*

Totally unacceptable, am I right?

Another example:

Man friend answers phone call from wife, in close proximity, and I’m totes nosey y’all so I can hear her talking. And she’s talking but it is in the most bland, monotone, dreary sounding voice you’ve ever heard. And you know that isn’t how she talks to ANYONE else, but she’s talking to her husband that way.

Guess what? I do that too. I get it. I totally, totally get it.

We’re tired from being up all night with hungry babies, toddlers peeing the bed, or kids puking.

We’re hangry because we’ve only had a cup of coffee and nothing else all day.

We’re overwhelmed from taking care of a little person(s) all day on top of our usual responsibilities.

We’re crazy hormonal because we’re breastfeeding, or pregnant, or pmsing, or taking two birth control pills a day(or is that just me?)

Anyway, whatever the excuse is, that’s just it. It’s an excuse and it isn’t excusable for your behavior.

And do you know something else?

My children and sometimes that nosey eavesdropper hear the way that I am talking to my husband. The gift God gave me. The man who chose to join my life with his. The man who will spend the rest of his life with me and the man who loves me despite all of my flaws.

And yet, here I am talking to him worse than anyone else EVER.

To top it all off? My husband’s love language is words of affirmation. (he reads this blog- hi babe!) Do you think I’m excelling in this when I speak to him this way? OH HECK NO. I’m failing miserably. And we all need to be reminded to speak to our husbands with the utmost respect. Complete affection. Absolute care and attention. Total love.

When we talk to our husband’s this way, our children start to talk this way. Not only to their Dad(which they will do) but also to other people.

I am displaying to my daughter(and also the world via the nosey eavesdroper) how much I value my marriage and how much I love and respect my husband.

So, how do I apply this? How do I change the way I talk to my husband?

Lucky for me, the Bible sure has A LOT to say about how we speak:

Proversb 15:4

A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit

Proverbs 16:24 

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.

Provers 12:25 

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.

Gentle. Gracious. Sweetness. Goodness.

Those are the things to strive for.

Perverseness. Anxiety. Carelessness.

That is what needs to be cast off. Far, far away.

It’s time that I remember to speak to him the way that I have been called to.

Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.