I used to cry a lot over my children’s age gaps.
They weren’t what I had planned for.
They weren’t what I wanted.
I’ve since learned though, that that was incredibly short sighted of me. Because every single age gap has its own benefits and its own challenges…
but they’re all incredibly beautiful.
So this 7 year age gap right here? It’s unbelievably precious to me. A gift that I never would have picked for myself but am so thankful that it was given.
There was a time in my life when I thought I would be a part of the 2 under 2 crowd. Or even the 3 under 3!
I was going to have baby after baby.
But it didn’t quite work out that way.
There was a time in my life when I thought there wouldn’t be an age gap at all.
I thought that Abigail was going to be my one and my only.
But then, 4.5 years later, Mabel girl showed up.
And then 2.5 years after her? Mister Finn.
Through their lives, I have now gotten to experience a larger age gap and a closer one- and I can tell you this, they are both incredibly special!
The relationship between Abigail and Mabel is a gift. The one between Abigail and Finn is just as much. And my sweet middle girl to her brother and sister is too!
I have learned that having an older with littles is basically amazing. On the days when it is just me and the younger two(rare, but it occasionally happens) I think to myself, WOW! I am SO lucky to have my Abigail. It is HARD to have only little ones!
She is my helper and baby wrangler and little sister chaser and conversationalist(sometimes I think her conversations will drive me mad, but, it’s nice to have someone to talk to, too)
Babies and toddlers are so sweet, but they pretty much just take from you all day long. Bigger kids have finally learned how to give back a little to you- that changes things.
And as time continues to pass, we are certainly open and welcome to any and all little ones who want to join our family and the sibling age gap that they bring with them, whether near or far(though….at this point, preferable farther than nearer, ha!) it will be with open arms and hearts that we receive them.
Because the way God crafts our families in His timing, is about the most beautiful thing I can think of.